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Tuesday 1 October 2013
SIGNS THAT SOMEONE LOVES YOU BADLY.
Signs that Show That Someone Loves You
It will take you less than thirty minutes to find one hundred inferior articles covering the same topic, but since you reached 2knowmyself; it’s the end of your search.This article is based on psychology, body language, behavior analysis and the psychology of attraction so Don't scan it but read it word by word in order to get the best out of it.
The information in this article is not subject to evaluation, this is the Ultimate Guide for knowing whether someone loves you or not. When I talk confidently about a topic then you should automatically assume that i am not going to mention my thoughts or opinion about the topic but instead i am going to give deep psychological evidence and provide you with solid facts.
Contrary to common beliefs knowing whether someone loves you or not is simple, you just need to open your eyes for the following signs. If you saw many of them then make sure that the person likes you.
Put in mind that the presence of only one signal is not enough for knowing whether someone likes or not and so you should look for more than one sign before you judge the other person’s feelings.
Love Signals
If someone loves you or if he is extremely interested in you then most probably he won't tell you directly until he becomes sure of your emotions towards him.But behind the scenes his subconscious mind will keep sending you signals that shows that he is deeply interested in you.The falling in love process happens on the subconscious level and how you can understand someone's real emotions by watching for these unconscious signals.
Now i am going to tell you about those unconscious signs so that you can use them to know whether someone loves you or not.
- The Private Distance: When you become interested in someone you will keep a smaller private distance between you and him compared to the distance you would leave otherwise while being with others. You will also notice that people who are interested in you will stand closer to you than to other people.
- Orientation/Zero angle: Orienting himself in your direction even if he were standing with other people is a powerful sign of attraction in body language. The words "Orienting himself" means that the person stands with his shoulders parallel to yours and with his toes pointing towards you.
- Positive Evaluation Gesture: In body language rubbing your brows with your fingers means that you liked something or thought positively of it. Now what if someone took this gesture whenever he saw you?? This certainly means that this person loves you.
- I don't want anything in particular: If someone likes you then you will find him Calling you for trivial reasons (for example: asking about something that he/she already knows). If the person was smart enough he might find a good reason to call you for but when the frequency of these calls increase then this usually indicates that there is something behind it.
- Why am i happy?: Smiling while talking to you even if there was no good reason for smiling is another strong sign for attraction. In most cases he will try to hide the smile and so he will appear as if he is trying to prevent a smile from showing on his face
- Smiles that Don’t Fade quickly: A smile will not fade away quickly if the person was genuinely interested in you (this does not have to be a love signal but in the worst case scenario it will be a sign of deep interest). Only fake smiles fade away quickly while true smiles stay a little longer before they disappear.
- Nice or Cold? Being very nice one day and ignoring you the other day is one of the strongest sings of attraction. The logic behind this is very simple, at the beginning the person treats you very nicely because he likes you but when he realizes that he has done too much effort without receiving a response he starts to pull back. This person might say to himself something like "Oh my God, I showed lots of signs today that shows that i am interested in her but I still didn't get a response, tomorrow I should totally ignore her". So when you find someone being nice one day and cold the other day then know that the positive signs he showed resulted from the positive emotions he has towards you and that the negative signs were given just to cover his tracks
- Mr./Mrs. Everywhere: Meeting him/her many times by coincidence is another sign. Of course these are not coincidences but the person may either be changing his schedule to match yours or he may be going to the places that you usually go to in order to meet you by coincidence.
- Your Friends Are Really Nice: Starting to care more about your friends and becoming more nice to them is a strong sign of attraction especially if he/she wasn’t interested in them before.
- Cancellations: canceling his other plans in order to see you.
- Where Are You? Finally the person who loves you will try to keep you within his line of sight and each now and then he will take a look at you to make sure that you are still there. This sign can work the other way too if you kept looking someone in the eye for extended periods of time you might let him fall in love with you. Falling in love is experienced when certain hormones are released into the body, if you managed to force the release of these hormones in someone's body then he might be fooled into thinking that he actually loves you. And guess what, looking into his eyes for extended periods can do this!!
- Looking for any excuse to talk about him/her: When someone falls in love with a person he will usually feel eager to talk about that person. In such a case he will try to find any excuse to mention the person's name in front of others even if the excuse was making fun of him!!! For example: “you know what, I think Sarah is really weird..”
- Frequency of moving her hair: When a girl moves her hair backwards using one hand so that she reveals her ear and skin then this usually means that she is interested in the person she is talking/listening to. If this was repeated several times while talking to a specific person then this could mean she is extremely interested in him or, in other words, she is in love with him.
- Being anxious when being with him/her: All people care so much about the impression the people they love form of them especially in first meetings. If someone always feels anxious around a certain person but not others then there is a big possibility that he likes him. So how can you know that someone is anxious?
- Minding his own business “You know what, I think you'd look really good wearing a red shirt.” The previous phrase is a perfect example of a phrase a girl who is in love with a guy will say. Although there was no reason for her to talk about it she just couldn’t resist the urge to make him look better. This could be a sign of attraction and an indication of the presence of love
- Hyper-activity: Did you notice how you behave right after you meet the person you love? If the meeting went well then most probably you will notice that you become hyperactive. This hyper-activity can be a very good indication of whether someone is in love with someone else or not. Just leave a close friend behind to tell you the news
Warning
Before writing this article I hesitated a little because I was worried about what might happen if someone misused the information in it. It's really very important to use this information wisely.I am not responsible for any misuse of the information provided in this article. The information provided in this article is for educational purposes only, in order to know more about the psychology of falling in love or to save your marriage from collapsing, its should not be used for flirting or for fooling people into loving you. If you misused it then dont come and blame me later as i am not responsible for what you are going to do.
How to know if someone likes you.
Unconventional tips for knowing whether someone likes you or not
One of the main reasons this website became popular are the articles I wrote about knowing whether someone likes you or not.In this article I will talk about a very special sign that very few people know about and that can help you know whether someone is thinking about you all day or not.
How to know if someone likes you.
I have mentioned earlier that your brain always tries to match what it sees in the real world with its beliefs before it sees the real thing.This is the main reason you could read a miss spelled word without even noticing and it’s the main reason you might believe that a wooden stick was a snake for few moments.
This means that if someone thinks about you a lot then he will see a lot of people who look like you. If someone told you that he saw someone who looked like you or that he was about to say hi to someone else thinking that he is you then this means that you were occupying a big part of his thoughts.
Now if this happened more than once with the same person then know for sure that this person thinks about you a lot.
Matching the outside world with the internal world
A person might be thinking about his horrible boss all day and so sees lots of people who look like him in the street but if you have done nothing bad to someone and still he sees people who look like you then there is a big possibility that he really wants to bump into you.When we want something or when we fear something we might confuse it with similar objects (Remember the example of the snake and the wooden stick?)
You must put in mind that this sign alone might not tell that this person thinks of you in a romantic way but at least at means that there is a great amount of interest he has towards you. The best way to know whether someone likes you or not to look for many signs and not just one so that you don't get incorrect results.
Effective anger management techniques
Every now and then people tend to get angry. In the state of anger,
people feel the blood rushing into their veins, find themselves acting
irrationally then they regret it later.
It's obvious that anger is an emotion that shouldn't be taken lightly and that serious efforts must be done to control and manage it. By understanding how anger works you will be able to control it instead of making it control you. In this article i will present you with effective anger management techniques that will help you get over your excessive anger problem.
To deal with anger you must first understand the nature of the emotion you are dealing with. After all you can’t fight an invisible enemy. The following examples will help you understand exactly what anger is all about and what triggers it. Understanding what causes anger is the first step towards managing it effectively:
If you understood these facts you can conclude that you can effectively manage your anger by learning how to control your fears, how to stand up for your rights assertively and how to set realistic expectations for life.
In such cases you are just wasting your efforts instead of channeling them properly. Learning effective anger management techniques will help you to utilize your anger appropriately instead of directing it elsewhere. When you turn your anger inwards instead of channeling it you may even become depressed. one of the known definitions for depression is, anger turned inwards.
When you suppress the emotion of anger instead of managing it properly these suppressed emotions will affect your mood in a negative way. Suppressed emotions will always leak through bad dreams, unexplained bad mood or sudden bursts of unexplained anger.
To make the idea even clearer, imagine that you're angry with your boss. Even though you're fuming, you probably won't do anything to show it ,Instead, you will just go home and find yourself shouting at your kids for the slightest thing. In this case You've directed your anger towards something (an innocent person instead of managing it properly).
The second one of these stages is anger where the person feels that he wants to take revenge from this person who dumped him. Thus learning how to control your anger can help you get over stage two quickly and so increase your speed of recovery from breakups.
message sent by your mind in order to force you to take an action. It’s a healthy emotion that can be channeled and properly utilized by using effective anger management techniques. Channeling it correctly will turn it from a destructive force to a useful and constructive one.
It's obvious that anger is an emotion that shouldn't be taken lightly and that serious efforts must be done to control and manage it. By understanding how anger works you will be able to control it instead of making it control you. In this article i will present you with effective anger management techniques that will help you get over your excessive anger problem.
How to effectively manage your anger
Anger is a healthy mechanism launched by your subconscious mind with the aim of helping you in regaining control or defending your rights.To deal with anger you must first understand the nature of the emotion you are dealing with. After all you can’t fight an invisible enemy. The following examples will help you understand exactly what anger is all about and what triggers it. Understanding what causes anger is the first step towards managing it effectively:
What makes you Angry?
You can get angry when:- Someone takes your turn while you're waiting in a queue.
- You have a lot of work to do on your slow computer. This will result in stress that will turn into anger.
- When you're in a team and you find a team member neglecting his work and leaving the work to the rest of the group.
- When you feel afraid! Yes, anger could be a consequence of fear. For example when someone nearly crashes into your car you get mad and shout at him. Why did you get mad? Because you were afraid that your car would get smashed. So in this case your anger was a result of fear.
- When someone makes fun of you.
- When you get scolded by your superior at work.
- When your boss gives you loads of work to do.
If you understood these facts you can conclude that you can effectively manage your anger by learning how to control your fears, how to stand up for your rights assertively and how to set realistic expectations for life.
Why you need anger management
Unhealthy anger is totally useless and destructive. For example, cursing your computer won’t make it run faster just like kicking your car won’t make it work.In such cases you are just wasting your efforts instead of channeling them properly. Learning effective anger management techniques will help you to utilize your anger appropriately instead of directing it elsewhere. When you turn your anger inwards instead of channeling it you may even become depressed. one of the known definitions for depression is, anger turned inwards.
When you suppress the emotion of anger instead of managing it properly these suppressed emotions will affect your mood in a negative way. Suppressed emotions will always leak through bad dreams, unexplained bad mood or sudden bursts of unexplained anger.
To make the idea even clearer, imagine that you're angry with your boss. Even though you're fuming, you probably won't do anything to show it ,Instead, you will just go home and find yourself shouting at your kids for the slightest thing. In this case You've directed your anger towards something (an innocent person instead of managing it properly).
Breakups and Anger management
There are five stages for recovery from breakups that people must go through before they can forget about someone they loved.The second one of these stages is anger where the person feels that he wants to take revenge from this person who dumped him. Thus learning how to control your anger can help you get over stage two quickly and so increase your speed of recovery from breakups.
Anger is just a Signal
Anger is like any other emotion. It’s amessage sent by your mind in order to force you to take an action. It’s a healthy emotion that can be channeled and properly utilized by using effective anger management techniques. Channeling it correctly will turn it from a destructive force to a useful and constructive one.
ANGER MANAGEMENT 1
Anger gets a bad rap. It always gets blamed for those explosive
outbursts you hear about in the news, road rage, post office shootings,
and domestic disturbances. I wouldn’t want to be blamed for all those
things. Would you? Does anger really deserve such a bad reputation?
Could it be possible that anger is actually a good thing but it just
gets used in the wrong way? Could it be something healthy and productive
if used or channeled in helpful ways? Many people let anger get the
best of them; replacing their rational thinking and leading them to do
irrational things that are often violent.
Anger is held responsible for so many bad things in our society that most people now think anger is completely wrong, not allowed, and a problem if you feel any of it. As an anger management facilitator at Anger Management 818, I had one man say that he had learned helpful tools in my class but he still was getting angry and wasn’t happy about it. I had to remind him that we all get angry and it will be that way for the rest of our lives. Anger is part of our basic emotional operating system, like our computers, meaning it is a core emotion, along with fear and love. These emotions are primal to us as humans, informing us about how to live our lives and how to survive. Anger can’t be surgically removed but it can be managed and channeled in ways that benefit us and don’t cause harm to others.
In an effort to reframe the bad reputation that anger has gained, let’s understand why anger is one of our core emotions. Anger is energy. It is also a signal that tells us much about who we are and what is important to us. When we get angry, there is a biological response. Our bodies prepare for fight or flight, with perhaps a raised heartbeat, clenched fists, and tightness in the chest, all gearing up to protect ourselves and continue surviving. This worked really well when we as humans were living in caves, surviving hand to mouth, and dealing with wild animals potentially attacking us. Now in our ever so domesticated society, we still have caveman aspects to our brains but don’t have those life threatening scenarios on a daily basis. When our bodies respond so strongly, it’s easy to let that build-up of energy (anger) come rushing out of us, by punching someone or verbally slaughtering another, only to have law enforcement get involved and potentially go to jail, get written up at work, and get court ordered to attend anger management classes.
So, before anger gets the best of you, let’s look at ways to better handle it. Anger is best managed by being proactive. This is a very, very important concept in anger management. Being proactive includes having a higher self-awareness that puts you in touch with your own feelings and emotions on a minute by minute basis. Part of this includes beginning to recognize all the emotions that lie underneath your immediate anger response. Anger is a secondary reaction to primary emotions such as fear, sadness, and frustration.
Additionally, being proactive includes using four basic concepts– knowing how your anger works and your anger triggers, using assertive communication, exercising genuine empathy towards others, and managing stress in your life. Noticing the small beginnings of internal anger allows you to diffuse it sooner, instead of letting it build up and eventually explode. It is much harder to manage and dissipate explosive anger than addressing the initial feelings of it early on. It also helps to identify and recognize how anger has operated in your life, how it has affected yourself and others, and what building blocks are included in leading up to your own anger responses.
Looking at how you communicate with others helps in identifying how changes can be made. Four basic communication styles are commonly used – passive, aggressive, passive/aggressive, and assertive. Recognizing which you use most often can help you begin moving from unproductive ways of communicating to more productive, open, and healthy styles of communication. This is best accomplished by using assertive communication which includes clearly stating your needs, being respectful of the other person’s opinion, and using ‘I’ statements. Speaking from the position of ‘I’ keeps the perspective coming from your own experience instead of starting sentences with ‘you’, which can feel attacking to the other person and lead to defensiveness. Using assertive communication will lead to clearer expression, new solutions, and helpful compromises.
Empathy is another important part of anger management. Using empathy starts with recognizing that most of the time, none of us really know what’s going on with the other person and the dangers of assuming we know how, what or why someone has done or said something. By identifying how each of us would like to be treated in many scenarios, a different approach to understanding others emerges, leading to less reactionary responses. One approach to using more empathy includes taking a 5 to 10 second pause before reacting and responding to someone. This pause allows you to imagine what it might be like to be in the other person’s shoes and respond with that perspective in mind.
Lastly, recognizing how stress builds up in your life and how it affects your own feelings and behaviors helps in managing many of your reactive responses. Some of the ways for one person to manage stress might not be the best way for another person, so it’s ideal that you find specific approaches that work for you. When one of my clients was getting upset and could feel some aggression coming up, he got down on the floor and did as many push-ups as he could, until he was exhausted. Afterwards, his body felt different, less explosive, and his head was clearer, making it easier to focus on the situation at hand. He told his wife he would be doing this from time to time and she learned to support him doing it, even in the middle of an argument. By do so, their communication was more successful and both of them were less aggressive.
Anger is held responsible for so many bad things in our society that most people now think anger is completely wrong, not allowed, and a problem if you feel any of it. As an anger management facilitator at Anger Management 818, I had one man say that he had learned helpful tools in my class but he still was getting angry and wasn’t happy about it. I had to remind him that we all get angry and it will be that way for the rest of our lives. Anger is part of our basic emotional operating system, like our computers, meaning it is a core emotion, along with fear and love. These emotions are primal to us as humans, informing us about how to live our lives and how to survive. Anger can’t be surgically removed but it can be managed and channeled in ways that benefit us and don’t cause harm to others.
In an effort to reframe the bad reputation that anger has gained, let’s understand why anger is one of our core emotions. Anger is energy. It is also a signal that tells us much about who we are and what is important to us. When we get angry, there is a biological response. Our bodies prepare for fight or flight, with perhaps a raised heartbeat, clenched fists, and tightness in the chest, all gearing up to protect ourselves and continue surviving. This worked really well when we as humans were living in caves, surviving hand to mouth, and dealing with wild animals potentially attacking us. Now in our ever so domesticated society, we still have caveman aspects to our brains but don’t have those life threatening scenarios on a daily basis. When our bodies respond so strongly, it’s easy to let that build-up of energy (anger) come rushing out of us, by punching someone or verbally slaughtering another, only to have law enforcement get involved and potentially go to jail, get written up at work, and get court ordered to attend anger management classes.
So, before anger gets the best of you, let’s look at ways to better handle it. Anger is best managed by being proactive. This is a very, very important concept in anger management. Being proactive includes having a higher self-awareness that puts you in touch with your own feelings and emotions on a minute by minute basis. Part of this includes beginning to recognize all the emotions that lie underneath your immediate anger response. Anger is a secondary reaction to primary emotions such as fear, sadness, and frustration.
Additionally, being proactive includes using four basic concepts– knowing how your anger works and your anger triggers, using assertive communication, exercising genuine empathy towards others, and managing stress in your life. Noticing the small beginnings of internal anger allows you to diffuse it sooner, instead of letting it build up and eventually explode. It is much harder to manage and dissipate explosive anger than addressing the initial feelings of it early on. It also helps to identify and recognize how anger has operated in your life, how it has affected yourself and others, and what building blocks are included in leading up to your own anger responses.
Looking at how you communicate with others helps in identifying how changes can be made. Four basic communication styles are commonly used – passive, aggressive, passive/aggressive, and assertive. Recognizing which you use most often can help you begin moving from unproductive ways of communicating to more productive, open, and healthy styles of communication. This is best accomplished by using assertive communication which includes clearly stating your needs, being respectful of the other person’s opinion, and using ‘I’ statements. Speaking from the position of ‘I’ keeps the perspective coming from your own experience instead of starting sentences with ‘you’, which can feel attacking to the other person and lead to defensiveness. Using assertive communication will lead to clearer expression, new solutions, and helpful compromises.
Empathy is another important part of anger management. Using empathy starts with recognizing that most of the time, none of us really know what’s going on with the other person and the dangers of assuming we know how, what or why someone has done or said something. By identifying how each of us would like to be treated in many scenarios, a different approach to understanding others emerges, leading to less reactionary responses. One approach to using more empathy includes taking a 5 to 10 second pause before reacting and responding to someone. This pause allows you to imagine what it might be like to be in the other person’s shoes and respond with that perspective in mind.
Lastly, recognizing how stress builds up in your life and how it affects your own feelings and behaviors helps in managing many of your reactive responses. Some of the ways for one person to manage stress might not be the best way for another person, so it’s ideal that you find specific approaches that work for you. When one of my clients was getting upset and could feel some aggression coming up, he got down on the floor and did as many push-ups as he could, until he was exhausted. Afterwards, his body felt different, less explosive, and his head was clearer, making it easier to focus on the situation at hand. He told his wife he would be doing this from time to time and she learned to support him doing it, even in the middle of an argument. By do so, their communication was more successful and both of them were less aggressive.
THE MEANING OF PANIC DISORDER.
Panic disorder is an anxiety disorder characterized by unexpected
and recurring panic attacks. A panic attack is a sudden episode of
intense fear that occurs for no apparent reason and triggers severe
physical reactions. Panic attacks can be very frightening and those
experiencing them often fear they are having a heart attack or even
dying.
Most people have one or two panic attacks in a lifetime. But if you’ve had several panic attacks and fear having more, you may be suffering from panic disorder. The good news? While panic attacks can significantly impact your quality of life, treatment is very effective.
Symptoms of Panic Disorder
The most common symptom of panic disorder are panic attacks, which usually include several or all of these symptoms:
Panic Disorder and Agoraphobia
Panic disorder can also exist with Agoraphobia. Agoraphobia is anxiety about being in places or in situations where a panic attack might develop, where escape might be difficult or embarrassing, and where help is not available. Agoraphobia can be triggered by a variety of situations including being outside the home alone, being in a crowd, standing in line, riding in an elevator, being in a large place like a shopping mall, and traveling in a bus, train, or car. Those who deal with Agoraphobia avoid these situations or endure them with marked distress or anxiety and often require a companion to accompany them outside of the home.
Cause of Panic Disorder
The exact causes of panic disorder and panic attacks are unknown. Stress and certain changes in the way parts of your brain function may play a role. And the disorder often runs in families. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 2.7% of the adult population in the United States has suffered with panic attacks for at least 12 months while 4.7% of the population has had panic attacks their entire life.
Treatment of Panic Disorder
Treatment for Panic Disorder with or without Agoraphobia includes a combination of medication and/or cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). As I talk about in The Anxiety Solution Series, once you learn skills and tools to stop your thoughts and calm your body, and once you try them out and see that they work, you’ll feel more confident, and your fear of having panic attacks will diminish. Once you’re no longer afraid of having panic attacks, you will have taken a huge step in your journey to overcoming your anxiety disorder.
Panic disorder can be overcome as these before and after treatments quotes excerpted from The Anxiety Solution Series show:
“A panic attack for me is a moment of ultimate desperation. I usually feel like I’m tottering on the brink. I sometimes get, in addition to all the other symptoms just sort of a feeling of falling, a feeling of being disconnected; a feeling of almost caving in on myself. I no longer feel like I’m in control. I’m not in control of my thoughts. I’m not in control of my emotions. And I’m afraid that I’m going to basically fly apart. That, I’m going to go crazy.” — Writer
“I haven’t had a panic attack in close to a year. At this time last year I would say my anxiety was probably an 11 on a scale of one to ten. Now, I’d say 2 with occasional peaks to maybe about 4 but I average about a level 2 anxiety.” — Writer
Famous People Who Suffered from Panic Disorder & Agoraphobia
Most people have one or two panic attacks in a lifetime. But if you’ve had several panic attacks and fear having more, you may be suffering from panic disorder. The good news? While panic attacks can significantly impact your quality of life, treatment is very effective.
Symptoms of Panic Disorder
The most common symptom of panic disorder are panic attacks, which usually include several or all of these symptoms:
- Heart palpitations or accelerated heart rate
- Nausea or abdominal discomfort
- Sweating
- Feeling dizzy, light headed or faint
- Trembling or shaking
- Feelings of unreality (derealization) or feeling detached from oneself (depersonalization)
- Feeling short of breath
- Feelings of choking
- Chest pain or discomfort
- Fear of dying
- Fear of losing control or going crazy
- Numbness or tingling sensations
- Chills or hot flashes
- Persistent fear of having additional attacks
- Worry about the implications or consequences of the attacks
- A significant change in behavior related to the attacks
Panic Disorder and Agoraphobia
Panic disorder can also exist with Agoraphobia. Agoraphobia is anxiety about being in places or in situations where a panic attack might develop, where escape might be difficult or embarrassing, and where help is not available. Agoraphobia can be triggered by a variety of situations including being outside the home alone, being in a crowd, standing in line, riding in an elevator, being in a large place like a shopping mall, and traveling in a bus, train, or car. Those who deal with Agoraphobia avoid these situations or endure them with marked distress or anxiety and often require a companion to accompany them outside of the home.
Cause of Panic Disorder
The exact causes of panic disorder and panic attacks are unknown. Stress and certain changes in the way parts of your brain function may play a role. And the disorder often runs in families. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 2.7% of the adult population in the United States has suffered with panic attacks for at least 12 months while 4.7% of the population has had panic attacks their entire life.
Treatment of Panic Disorder
Treatment for Panic Disorder with or without Agoraphobia includes a combination of medication and/or cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). As I talk about in The Anxiety Solution Series, once you learn skills and tools to stop your thoughts and calm your body, and once you try them out and see that they work, you’ll feel more confident, and your fear of having panic attacks will diminish. Once you’re no longer afraid of having panic attacks, you will have taken a huge step in your journey to overcoming your anxiety disorder.
Panic disorder can be overcome as these before and after treatments quotes excerpted from The Anxiety Solution Series show:
“A panic attack for me is a moment of ultimate desperation. I usually feel like I’m tottering on the brink. I sometimes get, in addition to all the other symptoms just sort of a feeling of falling, a feeling of being disconnected; a feeling of almost caving in on myself. I no longer feel like I’m in control. I’m not in control of my thoughts. I’m not in control of my emotions. And I’m afraid that I’m going to basically fly apart. That, I’m going to go crazy.” — Writer
“I haven’t had a panic attack in close to a year. At this time last year I would say my anxiety was probably an 11 on a scale of one to ten. Now, I’d say 2 with occasional peaks to maybe about 4 but I average about a level 2 anxiety.” — Writer
Famous People Who Suffered from Panic Disorder & Agoraphobia
- Father of Psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud
- Actor Johnny Depp
- Actress Kim Basinger
- Celebrity Chef and Restaurateur Paula Deen
- Actor Billy Bob Thornton
- Musician and Beach Boys founder Brian Wilson
- Director, writer, actor Woody Allen
- Millionaire industrialist, inventor, adventurer Howard Hughes
- Actor, director Nicholas Cage
- Inventor Nicholas Tesla
- Musician David Bowie
- Actress, comedienne Lucille Ball
- Artist Edvard Munch
- Super Bowl-winning coach, announcer John Madden
SOCIAL PHOBIA,DEFINED!
People often feel nervous when they go on a first date or feel
butterflies prior to giving a speech. They feel nervous because of a
fear of messing up and embarrassing themselves. This is normal. However,
in some cases, that nervousness, those butterflies and the fear of
embarrassment can be so terrifying that it completely takes over a
person’s social life. Social Phobia is a fear of social situations and
anxiety when in the presence of other people. Those who have social
phobia believe that they are being scrutinized and judged. When out in
public they feel like people are staring. They also imagine that people
are thinking negative things about them. There’s a fear they will say
something wrong, and thus screen their thoughts before they speak.
Essentially they have a fear of embarrassment and because of it, people
with Social Phobia avoid going to parties, eating in public, walking
across streets, going on dates, or going any place where they could
possibly do something embarrassing. When they do push themselves to go,
they feel anxious. Usually, the person recognizes that the fear is
illogical and disproportionate but feels powerless about controlling the
fear.
Social Phobia can be depressing and cause one to miss out on many life experiences. A teenager with this disorder may miss the high school prom, college students may avoid going out on dates and adults with Social Phobia may get passed over for promotions because they never speak up at meetings, avoid giving presentations, and are too intimidated to interact with others.
HOPE
“When I had anxiety really bad I didn’t really like to talk to anybody. I mean I wish I could in my mind but then I would never do because as soon as someone walked by I would turn away and then my heart would start pounding and I guess it was because I would think they would judge me or I would embarrass myself. I was really worried about embarrassing myself in front of people.”
– College Student
“After I started getting over my anxiety I just started talking to people; just introduced myself to new people and it felt good. I just started forcing myself to meet one person a day; just anybody that walked down the halls (at work); just stop them and say, “Hey I’ve seen you before but we’ve never met.” I would feel really good about that so I would do it more. Now I just feel like I’m a really outgoing person, much more than I was before.”
– College Student
SYMPTOMS
Social phobia affects people physical, emotional and behaviorally:
The most effective treatment for social phobia is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Some techniques used include systematic desensitization, exposure therapy and social skills training. Group therapy specifically for Social Phobia has also been found to be effective. Medications are sometimes used as well.
Social Phobia can be depressing and cause one to miss out on many life experiences. A teenager with this disorder may miss the high school prom, college students may avoid going out on dates and adults with Social Phobia may get passed over for promotions because they never speak up at meetings, avoid giving presentations, and are too intimidated to interact with others.
HOPE
“When I had anxiety really bad I didn’t really like to talk to anybody. I mean I wish I could in my mind but then I would never do because as soon as someone walked by I would turn away and then my heart would start pounding and I guess it was because I would think they would judge me or I would embarrass myself. I was really worried about embarrassing myself in front of people.”
– College Student
“After I started getting over my anxiety I just started talking to people; just introduced myself to new people and it felt good. I just started forcing myself to meet one person a day; just anybody that walked down the halls (at work); just stop them and say, “Hey I’ve seen you before but we’ve never met.” I would feel really good about that so I would do it more. Now I just feel like I’m a really outgoing person, much more than I was before.”
– College Student
SYMPTOMS
Social phobia affects people physical, emotional and behaviorally:
- Physical symptoms include sweating, trembling, nausea, blushing, difficulty talking or walking, increased heartbeat, and feeling faint before and during a social event.
- Emotional symptoms include excessive anxiety, illogical fear of being watched and judged by others, feeling worried for days or weeks before a social event, anxiety during the event, and dwelling about the event after it is over.
- Social phobia can also affect how a person behaves. Avoiding social situations is the most common behavior. It’s also common to turning to alcohol or drugs to cope with social situations which may lead to abuse or dependency.
The most effective treatment for social phobia is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Some techniques used include systematic desensitization, exposure therapy and social skills training. Group therapy specifically for Social Phobia has also been found to be effective. Medications are sometimes used as well.
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